I've been keeping a mindfulness journal. One of the things that I'm looking closely at lately is right speech. I'm an extrovert and love to entertain. Today I found myself rambling on about a topic to which I wasn't really giving a lot of good information on. It amused everyone but nothing was actually helpful. I feel like I was doing it to simply have everyone be my audience. I enjoy humor but I don't think I use it skillfully a lot. Some people don't take me seriously because I joke so much. As i continue to write in my journal I think I will notice more things about myself.submitted by jackreacher88
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I'm seeking some advice on my practice. I'm typing this on a screen so please forgive typos/mistakes.
I started meditating daily a bit over a year ago, ten minutes a day for the'pragmatic' benefits such as concentration, called, etc.
As I've sat more and more, I've noticed improvements in these areas as well as a greater awareness, empathy for others, and I developed a desire to extend my practice more to benefit myself so I can be a positive force and help others.
During the last year I also went on a self guided retreat where I mediated for the majority of two days in a mud hut with the question of who am I. That was a rather significant experience for me.
Also, I know buddhism frowns upon, but I also had a few experiences with psychedelic drugs that further inspired me to practice.
For the past half year, I've been reading more Buddhist books such as pema chodron's and the Dalai Lama's books. Unfortunately, though, I do not have access to a teacher that I know of.
My meditation has increased in length and fluctuates in terms of time, but I generally sit daily twenty minutes. I've been using my breath as an object of meditation, and after pema chodron's book 'How to Meditate' I've been experimenting with other objects of meditation. Then I read the Dalai Lama's guidelines in meditation and it seems like a completely new world and this is where my confusion arrives.
My question is this: how am I doing? What can I improve or add? I haven't read original Buddhist scriptures yet, though I sense I'll be looking at them in the not too distant future. But what should I do with my meditation practice and the like?
I'm starting to consider myself somewhat of a Buddhist, though this is only because of my practice and because the ideas resonate with me. How shall I proceed?submitted by Maptowel
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Often times, when I have been sitting for a while, it's easy for me to reach into that place deep within me where I can easily have compassion and love and understanding for everyone. I think of the people and situations that usually erk me, and I try my best to say to myself "I have compassion towards that person/that thing too", and it seems heartfelt.
But other times -- perhaps if I wake up on a cloudy day or if I am in a bad mood, or if I've had a particularly bad day where my interactions with others didn't go well -- I find myself full of inexplicable hatred... Even walking on the sidewalk and looking at other people or thinking about their lifestyle fills me with a sense of disgust or judgement.
It's almost as if I can feel compassion and love if I am alone and as long as I'm not actually interacting with others or having bad social experiences.
When I am a bit more clear headed and isolated, it's easy for me to put myself in other people's shoes and I can usually have those feelings subside.
I hate the poisonous feeling of hatred, it makes me feel heavy. Do you have any tips on how to increase my sense of loving kindness and maintain it through out the day?
Thanks for reading.submitted by Orvy
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I have been looking into Buddhism for a year and have been brought up a Hindu taking a particular interest in the contemplative Hindu traditions ( yogic thought and adviata vedanta). What is a good practice oraintated book on Buddhism? not on meditation as I have been doing mantra meditation for 2 years and have read 'with each and every breath' to get me started on breathing meditation. But one which teaches how to cultivate skills such as equanimity, dis passion, compassion in daily life. On how to deal with negative thought and how to keep motivated with spiritual practice.submitted by dabare323
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Hi, I'm still somewhat of a lay practitioner as far as my understanding but I have been interested in Buddhism for a long time. One of the bigger realizations ive come to is I feel that I am overly "attached" to the idea of people liking me, admiring, etc. I've dealt with social anxiety for most of my life. I'm much better off right now than I used to be, but I think that experience has manifested as a fixation with being well-liked, or even having some kind of "cool" image. I was wondering what yall might think about this, because I feel like this attitude is counter productive but I still feel that I slip into it easily. In my understanding this feeds into a false sense of self and attachment to my ego. I would like to be able to live a lifestyle in which I am simply content with living my life, but even as I acknowledge this I still seek to gain validation from other people's opinions. I'm starting to meditate more but I wonder if there is any advice or exercise on this subject. Thank yousubmitted by Gentleman_Robot
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There's a lot of talk on the Internet saying that it's wrong that when black people kill they're called thugs, when Muslims kill they're called terrorists, and that it's wrong how people will defend white people who kill for reasons such as mental illness or being raised in a bad environment. I agree that the first two things are horrible and need to be stopped. However, most people think this should be solved by treating white people who kill just as badly as we treat other people who kill. As a Buddhist, I think differently and I'm sure you all do as well. Instead of treating white murderers worse, we should treat all other murderers better. People say it's wrong that we treat some murderers better than others and they want this to be fixed by treating every murderer badly. But that is not a solution.submitted by Dheltha
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Quick technical question: I just concluded some anapanasati, and I took the following steps:
- Noticed the in-and-out breath, while mentally noting "Bu" for the in breath and "ddho" for the out breath.
- Once I felt confident that I was following the in and out breath, did a body scan/sweep, checking in with each part of the body to see how the breath energy felt.
- Abided in the whole body, just letting the sensations come in at their own speed, while I continued to follow the in and out breath without noting.
- Noticed pleasant sensations on the back of my hands. I put my attention there while mentally relaxing and soothing physical sensations elsewhere. Around here I took the attitude that I was a farmer, the first jhana was a fruit, and that tranquilizing sensations was tilling soil and pulling out weeds — that the first jhana would arrive when it was ready if I continued this.
After about five minutes there was this overwhelming sudden rush of pleasant energy and a massive smile broke out on my face. But it lasted for about thirty seconds at most, and then was replaced with a calmer sense of refreshment and ease. I then noted sensations out loud as they occurred so as to develop discernment/insight. i.e. "Pleasant. Rushing. Tension. Rising. Swallowing. Oscillation. Mental image. Moisture."
I'm unsure whether or not what I experienced was the first jhana or something different. In the times I've accessed this jhana before, it's been more intense to the point of crying from joy; although teachers like Thanissaro Bhikku have mentioned that the intensity of rapture has to do with how starved the mind is for "healthy food". I'm still familiarizing myself with the first jhana, trying to make it more accessible, so I'm still feeling out how it works and feels.submitted by Pathos315
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The review section on Amazon can be very interesting with books on Buddhism. You get many long and impassioned comments. Many academic in tone, some seemingly educational. A lot more than the usual "I loved this book, it spelled it all out" type of Amazon comment.
On a Buddhist web board I read someone posted an essay claiming 99% of Buddhists have a very basic element of Buddhism wrong. Even award winning academics. Even life long monks.
No title, no author.
The people there are old timers and they recognized the essay as having come from a photographer who posts reviews on Amazon under multiple names to trash books on Buddhism. He claims to be scholar, writes in a pseudo academic style with manufactured academic outrage over the quality of the content of the Buddhist books he tries to rubbish.
He is 100% wrong and comes off with the hubris of being 100% correct.
I've seen a lot of those guys on the internet over the years. Since they do use a vocabulary of $20 words mixed with a lot of psudeo academic hubris it is hard to tell how much credence to give to them.
In the spirit of helping people interested in Buddhism avoid misinformation the guy's name is Kenneth L. Wheeler and here is a blog post I found "busting" him for what he is:ieee234
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I am fairly new to Buddhism still and avidly trying to learn more, so sorry for what I thought was a simple question until reading into it further.
If karma is especially an action/reaction or cause and effect, opposed to the western understanding of moral reward/punishment , how does that effect ones rebirth?
I understand karma, and that it is not accumulated, or as previously mentioned in other posted 'banked'. I also understand (to an extent) rebirth. Where I am lost is how the two are linked.submitted by BIGpapa_duds
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