I was thinking about how similar Buddhist ideologies are to the seven deadly sins/virtues. Does anyone think that any of these are not Buddhist or just so general that every religion pretty much strives for these?
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I am torn, a link from Business Insider may feel out of place here, but the contents resonate with a lot of the thoughts that I have been having since I started my practice, not only learning Buddhism but abiding as much as possible to the core principles.
More and more I yearn for long walks, sit by the grass, and 'do nothing'. Meditate, enjoy a simpler life. We have to make a living of course, but why don't we make life easier for all of us already?
Buddhism seems to clash with the 'go getter' capitalist mentality, and I wonder if that is why it is often thought of as a 'hippy thing'. When I talk about finding contentment with friends and peers, they always ask 'but what about ambition?' and such things.
Just 'being content' does not seem like a goal that a lot of people around me regard with respect and even see it as mediocre.
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Lately playing Hearthstone has become one of my little vices and this excerpt from the Sangama Sutta has been bouncing around in my head lately, and I'm wondering what you folks think.Winning gives birth to hostility. Losing, one lies down in pain. The calmed lie down with ease, having set winning & losing aside. submitted by not-typing
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Is adhering to the monastic precepts before "going forward" to rush things? And how much does the precepts depend on the monastic alone?
As I have discussed before in previous threads, there are many things in my School that I don't agree with. I'm coming to believe that some of them are not only plainly wrong, in regard to the precepts, but also encouraged - rich monks who smoke, drink and have a family, and agressive monks-in-training come to mind. This is not uncommon at all.
I still believe, however, that the core teachings of my school are pure and efficient, and if one wants to practice them in a monastery he or she must put up with all these issues and live in community with all these people.
I'm working on myself, but I'm still far from being the example of the manner-of-conduct I'm preaching.
If one wants to incorporate the Precepts in oneself without having formally received them, is he getting ahead of himself? While that sounds like a noble intention, maybe it's best to wait? What do you think?
What about learning the precepts from those who don't follow them? How much "following the precepts" depend on who's taking them? Isn't it somewhat wrong to try to "do better" than one's teacher? That's still deviating from the teacher's teaching after all.
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I'm not necessarily new to Buddhism, I've been reading about Buddhist and Zen philosophy, listening to podcasts, etc but I'm having trouble dealing with my non-attachment to my girlfriend of many years.
To be clear- we're not having any relationship problems. She and I are both starting graduate school next month, and while I'll be staying local, she'll be moving about 500 miles away (about 7 hours driving, 1.5 hours flight).
How can I deal with non-attachment to somebody I love, especially if it's the first time we'll be apart for longer than two months? I know our priorities should be studying, but how can I overcome my attachment to my girlfriend? Not only am I asking because it will make me sad, but I don't want it to become a distraction in the big picture and have it affect my studies.
Thank you!submitted by 01010throwaway01010
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I'm looking at going to a buddhist centre for the first time, and was happy to see theres plenty in my area, but I have no idea how the centres work or what I should do when I go there? None of the centres have websites so I'll be going in blind, any advice would be greatly appreciated.submitted by itspclar
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Saw in another thread a fairly-upvoted comment that Zen monks are allowed to marry and have sexual relations.
This is wrong. The user who made the comment even went as far as saying this is "part of a 1400 year old Zen tradition," which is also wrong.
Basically, this didn't occur until ~100 years ago and was from Japanese governmental decree and is not found anywhere in the Buddha's teachings. It only happened in Japan, and in fact major dissent DID occur as to this "unbearable" start of "the dharma's extinction" within Japan itself.
To quote literally the first sentence of the article linked below (bolding my own):
One of the most significant legal changes for the Buddhist clergy in the wake of the Meiji Restoration was the decriminalization of clerical meat eating and marriage
There is an article here that discusses: http://www.scribd.com/doc/175714110/Meiji-Religious-Policy-Soto-Zen-and-the-Clerical-Marriage-Problem
There was even dissent against this violation of the precepts within/from a head of a Japanese-order as well (bolding my own):
One of the most vocal proponents of strict adherence to the precepts was the Miyagi Prefecture, Sõtõ cleric, Bokusan Kin’ei (Nishiari 1821–1910), who became kanchõ of the Sõtõ denomination in 1902. In a series of two letters to the Secretary at the Sõtõ Denomination Assembly, dated 11 August and 16 November 1875, Nishiari attacked those like Õtori Sessõ who claimed that the precepts were no longer valid in the modern age and that the clergy had more important affairs to attend to than trifles of morality. Rather than calling on his fellow Sõtõ clerics to modernize in order to revitalize support for Buddhism, he advocated a return to strict adherence to the precepts. According to Nishiari, the decline of the Buddhist dharma was not an ineluctable event; the precepts were no more difficult to follow in the Meiji era than they were in the time of Šhakyamuni. The hard times that had befallen the clergy were of their own making. If the clergy were upright, responsible, and moral, they had nothing to fear.
On the other hand, wrote Nishiari,
if we pass our days debauching ourselves, eating meat, marrying, drinking liquor, and doing other unspeakable things while rebuking the parishioners for their lack of faith; complaining about the changes at the court; not doing the work one should be doing; not practicing the way one should be practicing and, ultimately, not training a single disciple, then the dharma’s extinction is close at hand. Aah, this is an unbearable thingsubmitted by 10000Buddhas
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I grew up Baptist in a very conservative house, but due to a horrid childhood and too many hypocritical people in the churches I attended, I've recently renounced Christianity. I'm now trying to study other religions because I know almost nothing about them (if something didn't agree with what my parents believe, it might have well as not existed, and I wasn't allowed to look into anything).
Buddhism has caught my eye at start of my new journey,mostly because its so different. However, I'm getting confused by all the different sects or practices, if that's what they're called. I'm guessing they're a lot like the denominations that Christianity has, but I'm lost between words I can't pronounce or easily remember (I live in the USA, I have a hard time remembering how to spell Buddhism, and I feel like that's a common enough word used by English speakers) and what little snippets I'm reading here and there online.
I guess I'm asking for a description of the differences between practices, or perhaps some books that have some explinations on the basics. I picked up Zen Mind, Beginner's Mind by Shunryu Suzuki at the suggestion of someone in another post, and I'm understanding a little bit more about meditation (although his condemnation of dualism and then saying things that sound dualistic is really confusing me), but I'm hoping for more suggestions.
There's also a Buddhism center about an hour away (in Columbia, SC) that I'll be attempting to attend once I'm not working nights, and I was wondering what people knew/thought about it, or if anyone on reddit attended and had input (feel free to PM me if you feel uncomfortable about discussing anything).
Thank you for any responses, I hope you have a wonderful day.submitted by alosttimetraveler
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But during my travels in SE Asia I've made an effort to go to various temples and take in the beauty and serenity of it all, and I have been taking time to meditate at each one, often returning to the quieter ones to have some time to myself. I've been using this time to forgive people in my past who have hurt me, even if I think what they did was wrong. I've spent so much of my life consumed by anger, and I don't want that anymore. Every time I breathe out while sitting in a temple, I repeat the words in my head "I forgive you, even if what you did was wrong" and it kind of hurts, like how you might feel taking off a heavy backpack and the area burdened by the straps is sore, or how your hand might ache after putting down a knife you've gripped tightly for too long.
I'm not sure what it is, but the idea of a temple, the peaceful, quiet nature they embody, gives me a way of letting go of anger, and remembering how thankful I am for my life. I don't consider myself a Buddhist, but the teachings of Buddha, and the temples maintained by Buddhists, are helping me immensely, and I'm very, very grateful for that.submitted by 46n2arejustaheadofme
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My grandma lived with me and my family for 10 years, before she died a couple of months ago (on Friday the 13th, oddly enough). She had lived a long and exciting life, was diagnosed with inoperable lung cancer and given two months to live, then died peacefully in her sleep after receiving palliative care. As a Buddhist, I know that her death was natural and impermanent, and really it was close to the 'best' way for her to go, so there's no need to feel sorry for her. I also understand that there is no 'need' for a funeral.
However, I was away from home when she died, and before I could return, my mother (my gran's daughter, who has been mentally ill since before I was born) sent her body away to be cremated with no funeral. I was told that they had cremated her and thrown the ashes away, since my mum didn't want to keep them, and nobody went to the cremation. According to my sister, even the crematorium people were shocked and tried to persuade my mother to arrange some sort of wake at least. There was no family gathering or will reading, or anything at all to mark the death. My mum doesn't seem to be grieving at all, and in fact talks about how much easier life is now her mother's gone, although I'm fairly sure this reaction is the result of her illness, as they were actually very close.
Anyway, I've been having trouble adjusting to the death. I keep referring to my gran as if she was still alive, because in my mind there's nothing to remind me that she's gone like the memory of a funeral would. I don't think I'm grieving properly because of this. Also, I can't shake the feeling that I've betrayed her in some way by allowing her to be just 'thrown away' with the trash from the crematorium, even though I KNOW that it makes no difference at all. It might sound stupid, but almost the same thing happened to my dog: my gran accidentally ran over my dog in the car, and my mother 'finished off' the dog with a spade, put her body in a bin bag and threw her in the kitchen trash, where (according to my sister) she rotted for a few days before the bin men came. We'd gotten the dog 12 years ago, and I grew up with her. At the time, I knew my gran was ill, and I had a horrible fear that my mother would just 'throw my gran away' like my dog- I even had nightmares about it. When these dreams actually came true, it broke my heart, even though everything that happened to both gran and dog was technically according to my beliefs.
tl;dr: Neither my grandmother nor my dog got funerals, and were disposed of in the trash instead. I would like some advice about how to deal with it. Thanks for reading, metta :)submitted by unsuredo
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