Hi there, Recently I have been interested in Buddhist principles and i have been practising Metta and Mindfulness Meditation. Ive noticed some positive changes in myself, more compassion and a clearer mind.
I was thinking today about the difference between CBT and mindfulness. CBT is all about analysing and changing thoughts, whereas mindfulness seems to be about noticing them, and accepting them with no judgement.
I suppose my question is, if you do not judge your thoughts, how can you know if its helpful or unhelpful? I suppose when I think about it, you can still accept your thought while rationally realising that its unhelpful.
Im always over analysing my thoughts, which is what led me to mindfulness in the first place. I suppose ive always thought that i need to challenge cognitive themes about myself that i find to be unhelpful, but I cant seem to see room for this in buddhism. If I have it correct, practising non attachment and compassion would probably in itself cause a lot of my negative self beliefs to disappear, hence eliminating myself to do anything about it? And even when I have them, not identifying with them should mean they are no longer a problem?
Sorry its late and i'm slightly confused! hahasubmitted by prawntangey
If this illusory body, which I cling to as mine, is sick - let it be sick!
This sickness enables me to exhaust
The bad karma I have accumulated in the past,
And the spiritual deeds I can then perform
Help me purify the two kinds of veils.
If I am in good health, I am happy,
Because when my body and mind are well,
I can enhance my spiritual practice
And give real meaning to human existence
Bu turning my body, speech and mind to virtue.
If I am poor, I am happy,
Because I’ve no wealth to protect,
And I know that all feuds and animosity
Sprout from the seeds of greed and attachment.
If I am rich, I am happy,
Because with my wealth I can do more positive actions,
And both temporal and ultimate happiness
Are the result of meritorious deeds.
If I die soon, that’s excellent,
Because, assisted by some good potential I am confident that
I shall enter the unmistaken path
Before any obstacle can intervene.
If I live long, I am happy,
Because without parting from the warm, beneficial rain of spiritual instructions
I can, over a long time, fully ripen,
The crop of inner experiences.
Therefore, whatever happens, I shall be happy!Little_Morry
I was reading a recent question from someone specifically looking to become a monk in a particular region. As I read through answers and comments I saw someone say "I had been a monk," past tense.
I guess it never donned on me that some people do giving up the robe at some point.
I was wondering how this is viewed in the larger Buddhist community. And, could one plan to live as a (not sure if this is a term) lay-monk for some time, contributing to the sangha (cooking, cleaning, etc) while living the monastic life, with the possibility of making the life time commitment? Or is this usually how it works out?
The truth of it is that I find the idea of monastic life appealing. I think I could benefit from it. I am married (which from my understanding monk are not to be married). I have discussed this, and other paths that could separate us for years or even longer, and she supports me. She thinks as I do that many of these paths would benefit me more than anything I have ever done or I plan to do.
Thank you for reading through my questions and thoughts.submitted by Th3Dux
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Hi /buddhism. I hope you guys don't mind that I cross post this from meditation. I would really appreciate hearing your feedback from my post as well.
Recently, I met someone from my high school that I haven't seen for a while, and and I got hear about how all my old classmates are so well off and getting married while my life is still being lived in social isolation. Now i'm spending thanksgiving in my room because my family are too broken up about my grandmother's alzheimer to want to get together. I wanted to spend this whole day meditating, but instead I just binged on internet browsing and games; my vice and addiction that I have been able to cut back on, until today.
Sorry, I know that's irrelevant but I wanted to vent. Logically, I know it's irrelevant because those are just stories, and it doesn't matter. Once I master meditation and reach stream entry, everything will be ok.
Some people believe enlightenment or even jhana isn't possible without living a monk lifestyle. I refuse to accept that, because the idea of jhana is the only thing that pushes me to keep living a life that I feel would be quite miserable otherwise.
So I would really like to hear from people who have successfully reached jhana. I believe that once I reach jhana, there will be a snowball effect.
My biggest problem right now is I can't sustain a session for longer than 50 minutes, and that's really pushing it. Most of the time I just can't stand the boredom or tension or emotions anymore and I end my session before the timer expires, usually at around the 30 minutes mark, sometimes shorter.
My second problem is facial tension. My eyes tend to tense up during meditation, and no matter how I would try to accept this tension, the tension itself does not always leave. Tensing my eyes for 15+ minutes tends to lead to a lasting headache. This causes my meditation session to actually take a negative physical toll on me, and makes it harder for me to find the incentive to meditate or to find the pleasure in meditation.
I would say those two things are my main obstacles at this point. If I can just get past those two things, my progress would come along so much smoother. Does anybody know the cure or remedy?
Thank you for reading.submitted by pma2
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Jetsun Jamphel Ngawang Lobsang Yeshe Tenzin Gyatso, born Lhamo Dhondrub, my name is Jennifer Olivia Destiny Ring, born Jonatan Oscar Ring, and I hereby challenge you to a duel of fates.
Now then, we both know that neither of us will try to strike first, and neither of us will yield, for we both know that one cannot defeat evil, all we can do is deny it battle. Thus the outcome of this challenge can never be determined.
Such is the problem of induction, such is the problem of evil. If there is nothing, then there is no law or reason which prevents a universe from spontaneously coming into being. Such is the fundamental conflict, and thus we are all born in sin, including me.
Now then, if you drop a pebble into a circular lake, the waves ripple out to the exterior, bounce back and converge in a different point. So too does our ideas and wishes, desires and fears ripple through society and culture until we are, in a spiritual sense, born anew.
It was this realization which turned me, a former atheist, into a religious person. There are those who say it only ever happens the other way around, but they must be wrong, for even one counterexample can falsify a theory, and when it comes to the theory that people are only ever religious due to ignorance, and that nobody ever turned religious out of rational considerations, I do believe that I, Jennifer Ring, is an obvious counterexample, proving that the transition can indeed occur in both directions.
Then let it be known that I, Jennifer Olivia Destiny Ring, used to consider myself an atheist, but now instead have come to believe that the worldview promoted by Siddhartha Gautama, the Buddha, is a more accurate one. In this sense I am a Buddhist. Now I have said it, and now it is written. One can always write more, but what has once been done can never be undone, and thus I say that NOW it is done! AMENsubmitted by waveswan
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I live away at college and every time I come home I hate it and want to go back. I had a bad highschool experience but have a lot of friends and family who want to see me.
As bad as this might be to say, I feel like i have too many people that want to be with me. Like they are obligations. When I'm at school I can work on me.
I feel really bad because my mom is so nice to me and notices that I keep trying to go back to school. I just told her what my reasoning was but I still feel bad for her. Does anyone have any advice?submitted by cranapple12
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After doing meditation and practice, over time, I've become more sensitive and emotional. Is this my ego's attempt to get me to take things around me more seriously because it feels threatened?
I've noticed I cry a lot more when I see sad things, and laugh and feel more uplifted when I see happy things. But I know that these are just feelings I should observe and let them pass through and over me. Why are they happening more than usual now? Is there even any point in asking this question?submitted by besselheimPlate
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Hi, person with no religion here. In my school, we do something similar to theology (with a slight emphasis on Catholicism) and it was mentioned that Buddhism didn't have any deities. I am a buy confused by this. To my knowledge, I thought that religion by definition needed a god. Would someone mind explaining your beliefs to me please? And remember, all I know is Siddharta Gautami is Buddha.
** EDIT** Thanks to all who replied. It's important to understand other beliefs.submitted by IrishCynic
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It was really cool! I'm so glad I went. I brought a friend with me too. We did a guided meditation followed by a short dhamma talk. It wasn't exactly as I expected. The monks were very friendly and even told some funny stories (one about a person in Sri Lanka asking him to bless a lottery ticket.) I totally recommend anyone else who hasn't visited a temple before to give it a try. It's a great learning experience. I also teach a religious education class at a Unitarian Universalist church and the kids are learning about world religions so I look forward to our Buddhism unit where I can share some of the things I learned with the kids. Just felt like sharing!submitted by wtfgiraffe18
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Chinese buddhism recently has caught my interest. However, whenever I find a new school, they look scarily big institutions, with modern, westernized buildings.
In particular, I've been looking at the Fo Guang Shan, Chung Tai and Dharma Drum. I haven't found much about the daily routine of their monastics, but lots about the activities they engage with society and so on. With the exception of FGS, these schools don't have centers in my country where I can inquire about the practice. FGS does have a pretty big temple, but it's very far form here, and the founder seem to have had some weird political involvements and opinions.
I don't have many specific questions, but I'd mostly like to know if they're serious schools where you can seriously practice and study Buddhism.
What other options are there in China/Taiwan?
Thank you.submitted by Pronome
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"Just as, monks, in a peaked house all rafters whatsoever go together to the peak, slope to the peak, join in the peak, and of them all the peak is reckoned chief: even so, monks, the monk who cultivates and makes much of the seven factors of wisdom, slopes to Nibbana, inclines to Nibbana, tends to Nibbana."
The seven factors are:Mindfulness (sati) Keen investigation of the dhamma (dhammavicaya) Energy (viriya) Rapture or happiness (piti) Calm (passaddhi) Concentration (samadhi) Equanimity (upekkha) submitted by numbersev
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A couple of days ago my cat was diagnosed with 2 inoperable brain tumors, one of which is cancerous. The neurologist told me the best thing is to take her home and wait for the end, which could be in a few weeks or a few months. One of the tumors is pressing on her breathing center so there is a chance she could stop breathing at some point and perhaps die peacefully in her sleep. I would hate to euthanize her because that means a trip to the vet and she finds that traumatic as is.
What can I do for her? She's always been a very difficult person which has made her a very good teacher for me. When she's been mean or hostile I've endeavored to give her loving kindness and compassion. She's turned in a sweet pet and I've gained a lot from her in the process. Now that it's time for her to go I want to make sure I give her whatever I can.
Thank you.submitted by GetOffMyLawn_
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