I'm really bad at forgiving myself. I rarely or seldom cause fault (for example, accidents; like leaving the washroom on the run and crashing the car) but I recently made a blunder to where I feel that I just can't forgive myself.
I ran the sink water on, ignoring my intuition that the land lady may come randomly. She did, and it surprised me as to how easily she can say: "I wouldn't like getting charged extra because of water fees" and more sour comments. I just wondered for one moment, how could a human be as heartless as she is? I am, heartless too, but I easily felt disrespected about by her reaction. In the end, it's my fault, I messed up. All the pressure and stress comes into my mind (what am I going to do if she charges extra/kicks me out etc.) that it just occurred to me; most people around me are assholes, is it me that I have to change or is it because I am too hard on myself whenever I make a fault?
I want to be a perfectionist. I don't want to get in trouble. I rarely get in trouble but when I do, my whole world collapses on me. It's a concocted feeling of hate, disrespect, upset that just turns into hating everyone. Is it my fault or is it theirs?submitted by tellmehowitis
As a former member of the United States military who has fought in combat in Iraq, as well as a practicing Buddhist of 14 years, I am inspired to propose this question to reddit's Buddhist community in search of a feasible answer.
Below are two hypothetical situations which, at least to me, are similar. I'll end each with a question.
Situation #1: A new and deadly virus breaks out and is on the loose, but in a fairly rural part of the world (sound familiar?). There is no cure for the virus. Because it's in a rural area, the virus spreads at an incredibly slow rate. Then that virus is transmitted via ONE person to a highly populated area/country previously unaffected by the virus. The only way to effectively contain and remove the virus is to remove the host. This involves killing the host and burning the body. However, by not doing so, the virus will spread and infect millions within months, causing a tremendous amount of pain, suffering, and loss of life.
Question: Though Buddhism traditionally teaches to not inflict harm or to take life, would it not be more moral to kill the host and thus prevent the suffering of millions more?
Situation #2: There is a man with a bomb threatening to kill or at least severely wound a room full of innocent hostages (let's just say 20 people, for the sake of argument). The only way to disarm the bomb effectively to the point it will ensure he does not detonate it is if the man is killed. If no action is taken to stop the man, the likelihood of the bomb detonating is extremely high.
Question: Though Buddhism traditionally teaches to not inflict harm or to take life, would it not be more moral to kill the man and thus prevent the suffering or death of 20 more?
I ask this because I have never received a definite answer. I presented this to my formed teacher and was informed that killing one is no better than killing millions. But I have also presented this to a friend of mine (a long time monk in the Fo Guang Shan tradition) and he said that a goal of practice is to prevent suffering from all sentient beings and that rationale had to be used in this situation - that consists of killing the man or the host to prevent the suffering of many more.
I personally agree with my FGS monk friend. As a former military member, part of my duty was just that...to prevent suffering, even if that meant inflicting suffering to prevent much more on a larger scale.
This conundrum is known as the Trolly Problem.
And I'd like to know what you, my Buddhist brothers and sisters in practice, feel about this.submitted by starvingbuddha
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"And what is the miracle of telepathy? There is the case where a certain person reads [another person' thoughts] by means of a sign (vision), [saying,] 'Such is your thinking, here is where your thinking is, thus is your mind.' And however much he may read, that's exactly how it is, and not otherwise.
"Then there is the case where a certain person reads [another person's thoughts], not by means of a sign or vision, but by hearing the voice of human beings, non-human beings, or devas, [saying,] 'Such is your thinking, here is where your thinking is, thus is your mind.' And however much he may read, that's exactly how it is, and not otherwise.
"Then there is the case where a certain person reads [another person's thoughts], not by means of a sign or vision; not by hearing the voice of human beings, non-human beings, or devas; but by hearing the sound of the directed thought & evaluation of a person thinking directed thoughts and evaluating, [saying,] 'Such is your thinking, here is where your thinking is, thus is your mind.' And however much he may read, that's exactly how it is, and not otherwise.
"Then there is the case where a certain person reads [another person's thoughts], not by means of a sign or vision; not by hearing the voice of human beings, non-human beings, or devas; not by hearing the sound of the directed thought & evaluation of a person thinking directed thoughts and evaluating; but by having attained a concentration devoid of directed thought & evaluation, and encompassing the awareness [of the other] with his own awareness, he discerns, 'Given the way the mental fabrications of this venerable person are inclined, the directed thoughts of his mind will immediately think about this.' And however much he may read, that's exactly how it is, and not otherwise.
"This, brahman, is the miracle of telepathy."
- AN 3.60
ok so normally with people we just respect their wishes right? if they want you to pull the plug then i guess you have to do so, or if they want to live then you provide care.
animals cant tell us, and we often take them to the vet and put them to sleep when they get old.
thoughts on this? i have a cat that is dying and pissing and pooping everywhere and suffering pain - other people in the house want me to put it down. but it is eating and laying in the sun and stuff like that so idk if i can take it to the vet to be put down with a clear conscience. i'm not sure at what point to do so though, or if i will ever feel ok about it. my first time taking care of a dying animal.
thanks in advance!submitted by cchandleriv
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Or more generally: if any animal is a sentient being possessing buddha nature, should we also refrain from killing mosquitos and other animals with great disease potential? What about bubonic plague, dengue fever, or ebola?
Vaccination programs will kill off billions of sentient beings with buddha nature, but will save sentient beings of higher order. Is vaccination compatible with buddhist thought?submitted by inposure
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I'm new to Buddhism and meditation. Occasionally I have had some interesting things happen during meditation, and today was one. While trying to focus my mind which seemed especially active this morning, I was finally able to be still and quiet. In thst time I felt like I saw myself pull away from my physical body and sit directly in front of my mimicking me in meditation but made out of light. I was reflecting on this and was reminded that the true Buddha nature is in all of us, in me, and as we meditate we awaken more and more to it.
I'm no artist, but I wanted to doodle the image that I saw: image
r/Buddhism is my sangha and I am so grateful to have found this sub.submitted by najoes
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I have created the subreddit /r/buddhistrecovery to explore the solutions that buddhism has to offer those who struggle with addictions and the suffering addiction causes to themselves and others. To get things going, I plan to post a reading and a commentary every day for 6 months. This month I will be posting from Refuge Recovery by Noah Levine. Anyone with an interest in Buddhism or addictions is welcome to subscribe and participate.submitted by 93QP
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The Buddha gives an exhortation to master the four truths while our time here is very short and rare
"Monks, suppose there was a man whose life span was 100 years, who would live to 100. Someone would say to him, 'Look here, fellow. They will stab you at dawn with 100 spears, at noon with 100 spears, & again at evening with 100 spears. You, thus stabbed day after day with 300 spears, will have a lifespan of 100 years, will live to be 100, and at the end of 100 years you will realize the four noble truths that you have never realized before.'
"Monks, a person who desired his own true benefit would do well to take up (the offer). Why is that? From an inconceivable beginning comes transmigration. A beginning point is not evident for the (pain of) blows from spears, swords, & axes. Even if this (offer) were to occur, I tell you that the realization of the four noble truths would not be accompanied by pain & distress. Instead, I tell you, the realization of the four noble truths would be accompanied by pleasure & happiness.
"Which four? The noble truth of stress, the noble truth of the origination of stress, the noble truth of the cessation of stress, and the noble truth of the path of practice leading to the cessation of stress.
"Therefore your duty is the contemplation, 'This is stress... This is the origination of stress... This is the cessation of stress... This is the path of practice leading to the cessation of stress.'"numbersev
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I considered this one person who I introduced to join my social group that I head a "friend". I didn't actually get to know him but I liked how he was able to be very active within my group but I felt disrespected when he left what I'm trying to build for another better group.
Now every time I see him, I cringe. I am jealous because he recently won a contest in where there was a very valuable prize that I imagined of getting. And if it wasn't for me, he wouldn't have been in this path he is in now, winning things and enjoying. I don't want to join the other group because I've founded my own and I like being independent and being on top but seeing him makes me feel not only jealous but envious , disgust and a bit of hate.
How does an enlightened one, or a better person, deal with this? I find it hard letting it go although I sort of find fuel for drive when I use my jealousy, envy, hate and disgust for working to be better; not in purpose of besting him but in the purpose of being better and gaining more for my self. How do I work towards a more better, nicer, gooder alternative?submitted by tellmehowitis
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Request: My 83 year old mother is one of the sweetest people you will ever meet. She is, and always has been, Catholic. But before you make a judgement please hear me out. Everyone that she has ever met loves her. She never preaches. She never persuades. She never judges. She lives her beliefs and the results are amazing. After I learned about Buddhism it was obvious she had many of those aspects in her daily life. For 20 years she has provided a foster home for infants until a home was found for them. She has visited and cared for the sick and dying for the last 40 years. She helps with a local school for the mentally impaired. She is the the one person I always knew that used her religion in the right way...for her and for others.
I was raised in Catholic schools; an altar boy; a master of ceremonies. When I went to college I studied other religions in my mission to find the commonalities. The fundamental truths that all faiths were built on. And my mother lived by them. But now that she is 83 and even though her body is quite healthy, her mind is starting to slip occasionally. I want to create a final loop of understanding between us that connects the truths of Buddhism to the truths of Christianity. I want her to read, think critically and have a nice discussion with me before her end comes. This will help her. This will help me. One of many memorable circles created between mother and son.
Could you please recommend a text for a woman like this...to share with a son she raised? I really can't thank you enough.
TL:DR - A son of an amazing 83 year old mother wants to have a book club moment with his mother about Buddhism before she dies.submitted by Doingwrongright
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[Most of this is background info, to get to the straight up question, see the bold text below] Hey everyone, I'm an 18 year old college freshman. I read about Buddhism my junior year in highschool and researched it more. I began to practice Zazen daily my senior year in highschool, and like most of my habits it eventually died off.
But I remember the peace that came with it, and having severe financial troubles (just trying to scrape enough money together to eat) is effecting everything else in my life. My family has all but cut me off and I'm having trouble with my diet, social life, exercise and other things.
I remember the peace that came with practicing meditation and I want to find it again. I also want to learn more about Buddhism, but I figured I'd start with meditating first.
TLDR The problem is being a student, I share a dorm with another roommate. He's not here all the time, but even if I try to meditate when he's gone I get paranoid that he'll walk in on me and I can't focus on my breath. My bathroom has a loud fan that doesn't turn off and I prefer complete silence or natural sounds (birds chirping) in order to focus better. I don't have a car or any transportation to get off campus, and I don't know where to go.
Please help!submitted by Paxtun
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I have only read two books related to Buddhism (You Are Here and The Energy of Prayer by Thich Nhat Hanh). I have been moved by some of the concepts discussed in them and have started regularly meditating using technics from them. I am very green to Buddhism and am curious what established Buddhists feel about his writings.submitted by Dolla_bill_thrill
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There are no sanghas in my area and i am looking for a community to become a part of. I have been studying on my own and i feel i would benefit from a teacher or even someone to study with, Even if through skype for now. Any ideas? Please help as i feel stuck.submitted by chonkypot
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I just discovered this board and its community, and I cannot say enough how it warms my heart to see people you are and discussions you have. I am currently 20 and I have felt buddhist for less than a year, and since then I have always felt my life changed in a significant way.
I still don't know a lot about buddhism, and I ignore what is ahead of me. I wouldn't find the words to tell how far I am... I understand the core, the buddhism's understanding of the mind. Let me tell you my story a bit, I hope some of you will be able to relate:
One day, I had an illumination where a lot of teachings came to me and decided my life would change. It all happened in a two hours span, while listening to music, sitting in front of a delightful autumnal landscape. There was a strong feeling of joy that rushed over me, and after that moment it never really left me... Since then, It feels like love and happiness is always the logical answer to everything. My really-rare moments of sadness only dure up to 2 hours, because after a while I just don't find it logical to be sad; once again, I come with the conclusion that happiness is the logical way to be.
I feel like this is the basis that everyone should know. Would anyone be kind enough to brief me on the rest of this beautiful religion? I see a lot of words I still ignore.
It's the first time I see buddhists other than me. It made me felt so happy I wanted to share it. Tonight my heart is really warmed up, thank yousubmitted by Desbois
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